Overcoming Approach Anxiety
Approach Anxiety comes down to one thing: Fear
Fear of rejection
Fear of failure
Fear of getting blown out
Fear of overcoming shyness
The only solution is to condition yourself. In other words, practice. The old adage says practice makes perfect right? 
WRONG
Perfect practice makes perfect.
But how do you make perfect practice if you never approach? It’s a perpetual cycle: You don’t approach, you don’t get better.
I say fuck that. Don’t approach then!
Don’t approach? Then what am I supposed to do?
This is what you do: Don’t think about approaching, don’t think about what you have to do. Just be.
Be social
Be outgoing
Be fun to be around
Be the life of the party
Be a social butterfly all the time
Moving Beyond Approach Anxiety
If it’s that easy then why can’t we all just do it?
I never said it was easy. Nothing in life is worth anything if it comes easy. If you didn’t earn your diploma, earn your paycheck, save your money to buy a car — if you were given all those things, would it be worth as much?
When you go to the circus or carnival and you play those games to win a prize, like the one where you use a squirt gun and aim it at the clown’s mouth to make the balloon pop first. Why do you spend $10, $20, $30 to win a prize that costs only $2? You can literally go to the store and just go and buy that stupid teddy bear.
The reason is that it’s not worth as much to you. You value it more because you’ve earned it.
So you’ve got to earn the skills to get over approach anxiety.
How do you earn it?
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May 31st, 2009 at 6:53 pm
I totally agree with your advice on approach anxiety. I was soo shy growing up and was afraid to approach anyone. I realized that I couldn’t let my fears hold me back in life, and that I was never going to get ahead if i wasn’t willing to put myself out there.
May 31st, 2009 at 7:58 pm
Its great article for me as I too afraid for talking to new people.
May 31st, 2009 at 9:10 pm
This is the very first time i’ve come across such a practical advice. Totally makes sense. i am not an introvert, but i’ve seen how shy people behave around me. They definitely need someone to guide them!
May 31st, 2009 at 10:58 pm
I agree with the fact that “perfect practice makes perfect”.Useless practice is just a time waste without any output.So, try to be perfect with your practice.
June 1st, 2009 at 12:08 am
Really this is very useful. Because most of the people in the world are facing the problem of anxiety. This article advices such persons how to overcome with that problem.
June 1st, 2009 at 2:43 am
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June 1st, 2009 at 2:59 am
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June 1st, 2009 at 5:15 am
This is so true. I think one of the biggest fear of everyone is rejection and the only way to get over that is to get used to it. It won’t happen every time and if once you get over the anxiety then rejection probably won’t happen at all.
June 1st, 2009 at 5:37 am
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June 1st, 2009 at 4:17 pm
This is one of the most common problems that most of the people face in the current world. It was really useful, that the article explains how to overcome the problem of anxiety.
June 1st, 2009 at 11:28 pm
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June 2nd, 2009 at 4:35 am
A good attempt to analyze the issue. It is very useful to all those who are looking for a way to get rid of their anxiety!!
June 2nd, 2009 at 6:59 am
I have been a social butterfly now for a decade and the shining moment which brought me out of my shell was heart ache. Agree with your approach because after my heart was first torn out and eaten by a girl I became reclusive until one of my friends sat me down and told me to stop being a little girl about it. He said i had a choice of living or just existing in my sad misery. It was an easy choice but a hard process.
June 2nd, 2009 at 9:48 am
I agree with just being. I had a hard go of it last year and saw the movie \\"Yes Man.\\" It actually helped me with just being…putting myself out there to be a social butterfly. My confidence has increased and people come to me
Good article! Good luck!
June 2nd, 2009 at 4:51 pm
I disagree. As Wayne Gretsky said: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Perfect practice doesn’t make perfect – it’s mistakes that we learn from, not success. It’s mistakes that drive innovation, that led to the lightbulb and post-it notes. Mistakes lead to that next great ice-breaker or social event. Because it’s what happens when you fall flat on your face that leads to discovery – and character.
June 4th, 2009 at 5:01 am
Before this i used to have some shy to talk with the new people. But internally i am very strong. I can’t express views at the right place. Now, this would help me lot.
June 4th, 2009 at 6:55 pm
Will have to take this approach of just being, as you get older it gets harder, see myself being more & more reclusive many times notice a girl I would be interested in & that fear factor(lack of confidence) comes into play where just missed opportunities. Signing up for that free guide to pickup & seduction report!
June 4th, 2009 at 7:23 pm
This is a great resource for anyone who doesn’t know where to start or lacks the means to see a professional. Keep up the great work.
June 5th, 2009 at 1:01 am
I totally agree with all your views in the article.One of the major hurdle in starting any new work is the anxiety and fear associated with completion of the task.Being yourself is a hard to learn practice but once you learn it, it will boost your confidence to a very great height.
June 5th, 2009 at 1:53 am
nice article !! this will surely help people to overcome their shyness…when approaching a new person…facts and ways written are simply awesome!!
June 6th, 2009 at 5:08 am
I like the way you say you value something more if you have earned it – makes sense.
Your article is a nice way to introduce a fairly complex issue and definitely makes me want to read more!
June 7th, 2009 at 12:08 pm
I like your style. you are direct and to the point. But there is one BIG problem with you advice. Somebody who has been shy as long as I have been is not going to Be out of the blue. You need to give at least a little hint on how to do it.
June 7th, 2009 at 2:46 pm
This article is really inspiring, I have so much problems with anxiety and self-confidence. This can give me the boost I need to do better in life with my job and my love life. Thanks!
June 8th, 2009 at 9:31 am
This is very helpful to those of us who are people shy. I have this anxiety myself, and find it very hard to overcome sometimes. This is a good article, gives me a different way of thinking. Thanks.
June 8th, 2009 at 2:17 pm
yeah this i can relate on i still live with anxiety and i was shy growing up as a child too
June 9th, 2009 at 9:16 am
This is great advice. I have a stutter and I pretty much let it control my life. By following this advice, I know I would have a richer, more successful life.
June 9th, 2009 at 11:47 pm
this is very useful for me as because many peoples in the world are facing the problem of anxiety. This article provide very good advices for those persons how to overcome with that problem
June 10th, 2009 at 10:58 am
Really inspiring article. My confidence is improved now. I think everyone must have to read this article and take self experience.
June 11th, 2009 at 2:42 am
Great advice, I look forward to read the step-by-step guide. Although growing up I have gone over approach anxiety in certain cases, I still have to work a lot on it, as it depends on the place I am. If I\’m in a place where there are only strangers or no one with whom I am confident, than the problem rises again. Thanks
June 11th, 2009 at 10:31 am
This site helps everyone those who r scared to come out and talk freely and communicate to people outside at my young age i too was like this only very shy but now i have overcome all my fears and feel free to talk to everyone.