Stylelife Challenge
From the author who brought you The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists:
Hey guys, Bryan here. So I’m a bit nervous to start this “Boot camp” type deal, but I’m excited at the same time. I’ve heard good things about the Stylelife Challenge. I’ll record how I go through each of the missions each and everyday of the Stylelife Challenge and also the thoughts that are going on through my mind. Hopefully I’ll be able to get a date from an approach within 30 days! (The Stylelife Challenge promises a date for you by the end of 30 days)
Day 1 Stylelife Challenge
Mission 1: Evaluate Yourself
1. One or two sentences on how other people perceive you:
People sometimes think I am shy and introverted. That I get nervous when I talk to them and that I have nothing to talk about.
2. One or two sentences on how you want others to perceive you:
I want others to perceive me as charming, funny, and outgoing. I want to be the outgoing and cool guy that everyone looks at as the leader.
3. List 3 behaviors or characteristics you would like to change.
I don’t want to be shy.
I want to be less of a homebody sometimes.
I don’t want to be introverted.
4. Of the Stylelife Challenge: List 3 new behaviors or characteristics you would like to adopt.
I want to be a social butterfly and talkative.
I want to take advantage of my time and go out more.
I want to be outgoing and extroverted.
Mission 2: Read and Destroy
Read the manifesto “The Chains That Bind” at the end of the Day 1 briefing.
The Stylelife Challenge makes it a good point for you to remove limiting beliefs about yourself. Limiting beliefs are something that you think is true about yourself, or your think other people believe it’s true too, but in fact the thought itself is holding you back. For example, you think that girls won’t go for me because I’m 5 foot 6. When in fact it does not matter one bit. The thought alone holds you back. Whenever you tell yourself you “can’t” do something, it is a limiting belief.
How to dispel a limiting belief:
Ask yourself: “Has there ever been a time when I” … or “Was there ever a time when…” (insert limiting belief)
i.e. Was there ever a time when I was comfortable around a beautiful woman?
Yes there has been.
BAM — I just dispelled the limiting belief.
Some common limiting beliefs from the Stylelife Challenge:
Limiting belief: She’ll ignore me when I talk to her or embarrass me.
Negative what-ifs are detrimental. Worse that can happen is she’ll excuse herself.
Limiting belief: Everyone is looking at me, making fun of me or judging me.
People who see you approach will think you know that person anyway. Ironically, most people are thinking about what others think of them and are too busy surrounded by that to even notice or judge you.
Limiting belief: Girls like jerks not nice guys.
The dichotomy isn’t nice vs. mean. It’s weak vs. strong. You can still be nice and strong at the same time.
Limiting belief: Gorgeous women want good looking, rich, and famous men.
Money, looks, and fame may make things easier but is not necessary. Isn’t how we look, but more on how we present ourselves. Displaying the desire and ability to achieve wealth and fame are just as attractive.
Limiting belief: There’s this one girl I really like but she doesn’t like me in return.
Move on. Plenty of women out there. Don’t get oneitus over someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you.
Limiting belief: Charm is innate. You either have it or you don’t
Wrong. It can be learned. It’s about how you present yourself and can be fixed easily. So far I’m liking the Stylelife Challenge.
Limiting belief: I just have to be myself and I’ll find the right girl.
Don’t use this as an excuse. Your true self is underneath insecurities and inhibitions. You need to know exactly who you are and what your strengths are so that you can convey them successfully.
Limiting belief: Just ask a women to tell you what they want.
What women want isn’t necessarily what they respond to. What they say may not be what attracts them. It’s usually found in between the lines.
Limiting belief: Woman will think you are hitting on them and lame if you approach.
It’s only lame if you approach them badly — make them feel uncomfortable, creep them out, or are rude. Biggest mistake is to hit on her before she’s attracted to you. Very few women will resent you if you are funny, warm, charming, engaging and interesting.
Limiting belief: Women aren’t into sex as much as men. They like relationships.
Wrong. Spend more time around women and you’ll know the truth. Sex is better for a women, it makes sense they want it more. They can have different kinds of orgasms: clitoral, vaginal, blended, full-body, psycholagnic. Twice as many nerve endings on the clitoris than on the man’s penis.
Stylelife Challenge – Mission 3: Make small talk with 5 strangers today.
1. Talked to lady at the hardware store checkout. Asked her if this was a busy weekend.
2. Talked to some guy named Richard
3. Talked to his girlfriend
4. Some girl named Jen
5. And a Michael.
My first impressions of the Stylelife Challenge still stands. I’m digging it!
Signed,
Bryan “The 28-year old Virgin”
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